The Bridegroom's Speech


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Bridegroom's Speech


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As the groom, you are not expected to give a long speech, nor to be particularly amusing. The groom may get off lightly because it is expected that you may be a little more emotional.

Officially, the bridegroom makes the second speech. He responds to the toast by the father of the bride and proposes his own toast to the bridesmaids. The bridegroom is expected to thank everyone involved in setting up the wedding and he needs to do this in an entertaining, sincere yet amusing way. When writing your speech, try to adhere to the following rules.


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Formal Approach

Thank your bride's father for his toast and for giving you his daughter's hand in marriage.

Thank your bride's parents for providing the wedding and for welcoming you into their family.

Talk of the happiness this day brings and express how fortunate you are to have such a lovely bride.

Praise the in-laws on having brought up their daughter so well and convey your positive feelings towards them.

Say something complimentary and affectionate about your own parents.

Thank the guests for attending, their good wishes and generous gifts.

Thank the best man, ushers, the minister (if appropriate) and any helpers.

You may wish to mention absent friends and family.

Propose a toast to the health and happiness of the bridesmaids.


Less Formal Approach - 1

Lightheartedly break the ice and set an amusing tone for your speech.

Thank your bride's father for his kind remarks and good wishes.

Thank everyone for attending and for their generous presents.

Thank both sets of parents for the trouble and expense they have gone to in organising the day, single out your mother in-law and your own mother for particular praise.

Say what a wonderful occasion it has been and tell a story of the events leading up to your big day.

Tell everyone how beautiful and wonderful your bride is and how lucky your are to have married her. Possibly relate a short story, amusing episode involving your first meeting, or provide details about how your romance developed, the effect you've had on each other and why you are so well suited.

Express your happiness in joining your wife's family and reassure them you will take good care of their daughter.

Thank your parents for the help and support you have received over the years.

Conclude with some complimentary words about the bridesmaids and propose a toast in their honour.

Hand over to your best man.


Less Formal Approach - 2


Lightheartedly break the ice and set an amusing tone for your speech.

Welcome all your guests and thank them for choosing to share this day with you.

Express your gratitude to the bride's parents, not only for their generosity in providing the wedding but for all the kindness, friendship and support they have shown you. Compliment them on raising such a wonderful person and thank them for allowing you to marry her. You may even wish to relate the ordeal of asking their permission.

Add a few affectionate words about your own parents and pay a tribute to your friends.

Express your love for your bride, declare your confidence that you will have a happy future together and offer some entertaining thoughts on life as a married man.

Thank your best man for his services, provide an insight into your friendship and express your regard for him. You might also want to take a preemptive strike.

Thank the ushers and anyone else involved in the planning and organisation.

Conclude with some complimentary words about the bridesmaids and propose a toast in their honour.


Main Points


Thanks to...

1 - Your bride's father, for his toast and to you and your new wife.

2 - Your bride's father, for welcoming you into the family.

A good term to use that should get a warm response from all of the guests is "My wife and I", followed by - something along the lines of, "Would like to thank you all for being with us on this special day".

3 - Any special mentions regarding the distance traveled from far and wide by certain guests.

4- Your new bride's parents (if appropriate) for the wonderful reception they have provided and their generosity.

5 - Your own parents, for the love and support that they have shown you over all the years.

At this point you (and your wife) may present a gift or bouquet of flowers to your own and your bride's mother. There may be other gifts to hand out.

6 - Your best man, for his help and support.

7 - Your wife for marrying you and for making you the happiest man in the world and for looking so stunning and beautiful.

You may propose a toast for 'absent friends', reminding the guests that not everyone will have been able to attend and that the absentees are in your thoughts.

8 - You may thank the ushers for the part that they have played during your day.

9- Finally, you may thank the bridesmaids for the part that they have played during your day and asking everyone to stand, propose a final toast to "the bridesmaids".


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Keep you speech shorter than ten minutes. For most people the rate of words while speaking is at 110 per minute, so limit your speech to around one thousand words.


Make it clear you are also speaking on behalf of the bride.


Don't alienate sections of the audience by constantly referring to individuals or events that are not relevant or able to be appreciated by all of the guests.


The speech should be sincere, but it should also be entertaining and contain a liberal number of humorous remarks.


Set your own signature on the speech (your first impressions of the bride, a personal message from you to her, your thoughts on love and marriage, for instance).


Learn the opening lines of your speech off-by-heart. There is no shame in reading the remainder word for word, but every now and then look up to make eye contact with the audience.


Take your time and ensure your voice is loud enough to be heard by everyone.


































































































































































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